Sadness, Pain and Loneliness

It seems that nowadays more people are getting depressed and suicidal. At first glance, it seems like an irony when we are more “in touch” with each other through tech tools like twitter and Facebook. I am not going to blame this on technology, because just like electricity and money, technology is just a tool that can be used both for the better or for the worse.

In every situation, it is the human person that stands in the center of both being affected on and affecting their environment.

Sadness, like most emotions, are signals. Whatever makes us sad tells us that something does not agree with our expectations. The emotion is strong so that we cannot ignore it. It tells us that it is not okay. Something must change. I think we owe it to ourselves to address every emotion that comes our way.

Studies show that hiding, ignoring or replacing sadness with some other emotion like a drug induced feeling or even numbness can cause long-term health damage, not to mention present psychological unrest. All emotions are made to be addressed as soon as they come up.

How we address it is the difference between heaven and hell. If we think of emotion as a stop light, a sign that tells us that something has to change, we immediately hold on to the situation that caused the pain, open it up, and discover why it is painful for us. From there, we can now tackle how’s.

How can I change this situation? How can I feel differently about this? How did this problem happen?

How can I solve this?

At the height of emotion it seems that “intellectualizing” the problem is not addressing it, but if you feel that way, you would also grasp that this same feeling came from a series of thoughts or words that you told yourself. This is specially true for sadness that seemingly is not caused by “anything” in particular.

“I’m all alone because everyone is too busy to come check up on me.. because they don’t really care, because I don’t matter to them..to anyone…” This kind of script is often seen on people who are always sad. We must realize that we talk ourselves into sadness.

We talk ourselves to feel lonely, unimportant, and other false beliefs. They are false beliefs. False and harmful beliefs that serve to perpetuate their own reality. If one is alone in their room thinking loney thoughts, they will not be able to go out and meet people at that instance. If they are thinking of how they can get back at someone they cannot be thinking of ways to make ammends to a broken relationship by healing someone else’s hurt.

These false beliefs often times come from small remarks made by parental figures or anyone early in life. The trick is to ferret out the belief. Why do you feel unloved? What instance in your childhood made you feel unimportant? That one instance that gave you a resolve to act a certain way or believe something bad about you?

The beauty about this particular moment is that it only exists inside your memory. Your memory is as soft as clay. It is completely moldable to any form you choose for it to take. In this particular moment, I ask for you to take that negative memory and end it the way you would have wanted it to end. Make this memory more real, more concrete, more vivid and more emotion-filled than the old figment. In this way, your mind now has a new reference to bear upon when you go through events in your life. Difficult circumstances that used to trigger not just the present pain, but all the pain that came into your life stemming from that one little moment of false belief will now be miniscule in your eyes. You will begin to feel the strength of perfection that was given to you as a child. We were all born perfect. We still are.

We are perfectly capable of molding our minds in the way we want. We all deserve happiness and freedom from crippling negative emotion. Negative emotion is a tool we use to see the problems we can take on to get to where we want to be or who we are inside.

God has said, He has made us in his image. As children of the Lord, we are inherently great, inherently powerful, inherently good, and happily perfect. Anything that says otherwise is a false belief that should be abandonned like the plague.

There are those who might have expected that I should dwell on sadness, but we all know how it feels like. Pain, heartbreak, loneliness, frustration, anger, hate, desperation, and all those negative emotions is like a flame. We put our hand on the flame, and we can feel that it is hot. As long as it is hot, we desire to remove our hand because the longer it stays there, the more it will hurt. So we see the problem, and remove our hand away from the flame. We take ourselves out of the sadness and into thinking of solutions to the problem.

Does anyone put their own hand to the flame and cry but not remove their hand? That one believes that they deserve sadness, or are afraid that to be happy. Even beliefs like these can be exposed to the light, and melted away by grounding yourself in the firm, unshakeable truth of who we are as children of God.

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